Find Time By Saying No

What others think of you is none of your business. – Unknown

I am putting the finishing touches on my upcoming class: Finding Freedom: How to Use Your Mind To Take Back Your Time and wanted to give you a little peak into what we will be covering. 

Oftentimes what robs us of our time is doing things we don’t want to do.  I don’t mean the things we are required to do that we don’t enjoy, I mean the things where we have a choice.  Where we could have said “no” and we didn’t. We said yes. Why?  I could make a long list answering that question and yet it boils down to one simple idea: we cared too much about what another person thought of us. 

Friends, this thief of time is all too common, I see it all the time. Heck, sometimes I engage with it myself. 

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. It’s not you. It’s your paradigm. You cannot outperform your paradigm. And, good news, you can change your paradigm.

In this type of situation, the paradigm that is running you is consumed with what another person will think. The thoughts are varied and they likely sound like this:

 If I say “no”, they will think:
– that I don’t love/like them
– that I don’t care
– that I’m being selfish
– that I’ll always say no


Sound familiar?  The truth is, they may think that. And, it’s none of your business. What if you had a paradigm around saying no that was supportive to you and how you truly want to spend your time?  What if you felt more confident about saying no?  How would that change the activities and events that you participate in?  

Yes, exactly…you will have more freedom to do what you want. 

Now what? 

RSVP for the class and I’ll give you step by step instructions on how to resolve this and we’ll cover some other common paradigms around time too.  Even if the class times don’t work for you, register anyway so you get all the replays dropped into your inbox and you can watch when you want to. 

In the meantime, you can adopt one or more of the following affirmations. Begin to recite, read and write it every day.  Start with 10x and if you feel compelled to do more, then have at it! 

I am so happy and grateful now that 
I confidently and consciously choose how I spend my time. 

I am so happy and grateful now that 
saying no is becoming easier and easier for me. 

I am so happy and grateful now that 
I speak my mind with confidence, grace and love. 


Or, use a similar format and adjust as you see fit. Begin with “I’m so happy and grateful now that”…and add whatever it is you want to cultivate. 

Sending you lots of love and positive energy! Thank you for taking the time to read today’s message. 

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