Isn’t it funny, we often want people to give us the benefit of the doubt but when it’s our turn, we make assumptions that incriminate others. As much as we are taught not to assume, there is an exception to this rule. Assume for good! Assume people are doing the right thing, that they honestly did not know or did not intend to hurt you or the thing that broke/failed/messed up – you get the idea. When you do this, you will be happier and they, oh my, they will be happier too!
I messed up last week. Big time. It was mortifying. But then, I did what I needed to do and now I get to share with you about it. How we respond to life’s curveballs has a whole lot to do with our happiness, at work and at home too. Here are the 4 things I do when I make a mistake and I encourage you to do them too. Enjoy!
You have heard the phrase, you get what you give. To be happier at work, you have to GIVE happiness in order to get it. There are hundreds of things you can do. Listen close, find an action that suits you and your co-workers and do it! Leave a comment and tell me what you did, I would love to hear from you!
Oh! And if you are already being kind, keep it up! You rock!
Sometimes we come across differences at work that don’t really matter. Like the way someone does something that doesn’t really and truuuuuuly impact us. We might think it affects us, but really, it doesn’t. For example, filing or the way someone speaks, a little “tick” someone has or silly habit. We can employ a conflict management strategy of avoidance to help us manage those inevitable things that come up. We can also use the strategy of avoiding conflict when we need time. Time to cool off, calm down, collect our thoughts and return to an emotional and mental state that will serve the situation.
I hope you find this tip helpful and would love to know how you are using it to create more happiness at work!
Tell me all the reasons why you can’t be happy at work and I’ll tell you it boils down to differences. Differences in our beliefs, values, methods, approach, knowledge, and understanding just to name a few. In this video, we explore differences and I challenge you to consider their importance to you. We are doing this together, happy-doers, so that we can start “peeling the onion” on the conflict that occurs at work. Ultimately, we get to decide what is most important. Determining why those differences matter so much to us helps us become prepared to address them when they truly, matter.
